My area of expertise is in working with singles and couples through relationship challenges and traumas that may be blocking the way to finding and keeping love alive. I identify triggers that may be getting in the way. My main therapeutic modalities are Somatic Experience therapy for individuals and Emotionally Focused Couples therapy combined with Imago for couples. My main aim is for people to feel as positive as quickly as possible. The work I do goes deep beneath the core, to identify the history of what is getting in the way so we can clear the path, and create new pathways.
My primary area of expertise is in working with singles looking for love, and young couples just starting out. Also, engaged couples who are uncertain about whether they are with the right one. Basically, people who would like to create a healthy relationship from the start. I know how challenging this can feel when so many seem to do it effortlessly. The truth is, we all have challenges when it comes to marriage. Some of us have a harder time finding love, others have challenges that arise later on. It is my greatest hope to get people into the best place possible to invite a really great relationship and keep it going.
It is so enriching to be able to work with people to create a relationship that they can feel proud of. Laying a great foundation from the beginning paves the way towards being able to overcome common challenges that can plague any of us.
Alma Family Therapy, Melbourne, AU
Masters in Nutrition and Public Health, 1999
Masters in Counselling, La Trobe University, 2002
Certificate in Marriage and Couples Therapy , Relationships Australia 2002
Diploma in Marriage and Family Therapy, Alma Family Therapy, 2007
Somatic Experience Therapy, Advacned level 2, 2018
Certified Member of the Israeli Association of Marriage and Family Therapy since 2008 #2782
EFT Couples Therapy Certificate 2016
Lone Soldier Discount
I have been rejected more times than I can count. By friends, boys, jobs, my kids, you name it… One of my most memorable rejections happened while in 6th grade. My English teacher encouraged us to write a journal, which I kept "hidden" in my desk. In it, I wrote all about a crush I had on a boy named Joey, a fellow classmate. I forgot that in the morning we sat at one desk and in the afternoon another. A fellow classmate found my journal and proceeded to read that very entry aloud to the entire class during recess.
It%27s very hard to acknowledge when there%27s a problem. Our human tendency is to want to dig our heads in the sand or blame the problem on someone else. Once the problem has gotten out of hand there%27s little we can do to reel it back in. Often the damage that results from leaving a problem too long is so all encompassing, we don’t know where to start to get things under control. This is what makes people decide to "suddenly" get divorced. The marriage didn’t disrupt suddenly. The couple just let the challenges pile up, instead of dealing with them as they arose. They never learned the tools and skills they needed to deal with challenges in the first place.
Anna, a 35-year old, slim, petite and attractive brunette woman from Miami Beach had been…
Have you come out of a relationship recently where you feel like banging your head against a wall because yet again you’ve dated someone who turned out to be a bad apple? So you go into this mantra of telling yourself there must be no good people to date, because everyone you go out with ends badly.
Your dating pattern may look something like this. You meet someone, they make you feel really good in the beginning, they treat you nicely, take you to nice places and show you a good time. Then slowly they show less interest in you. Maybe they distance themselves from you, start saying things that are hurtful, or seem to care less about your opinion?
No one wants to live with a feeling that disaster can strike at any time….
Micki Lavin-Pell, is a marriage and family therapist of 15+ years, married to Gaby Pell for nearly 18 years +4 kids. She specializes in helping couples navigate challenges at different stages of their lives and deal with attachment issues that often plague relationships using Emotionally Focused Couples therapy. She co-hosts a podcast featured on www.Jewishcoffeehouse.com, called Real Relationships and can be found on her website www.mickilavinpell.co.il
It was amazing how the strength of the comradery of the women enabled them to shift their view of themselves and their experience of MRKH from one in which they were hard done by and less of a woman, to feeling special. They were able to explore the possibilities that having MRKH presented to them. They also recognized the hope and possibilities that lay within their situation, on many levels. When the women started the workshop, many were nervous and fidgety. By the end, they were sitting up straight with big smiles on their faces and hope in their eyes.
What I learned was that we can all be hope experts, as we have all experienced life challenges. The more we recognize the challenges that we endured, remove the shame connected to those challenges and celebrate the accomplishments, the better able we can help others feel more hopeful too.
Attachment-Based Family Therapy (ABFT)
Family Systems Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT)
Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT)
Somatic Experiencing (SE)
Systems Theory / Therapy