My Child, Myself

Published on December 5, 2016

It’s not uncommon after a child receives a diagnosis for a parent to begin to see some of the same signs in themselves. They might think “Hey, maybe that’s why I am always losing things” or “I also have a problem with tight itchy clothing,” or “I’ve never realized that its bright overhead lights that give me migraines.” Perhaps the parent realizes that they also become flooded with emotion and take longer to calm down than other people around them. Perhaps they realize that they are more than just shy and may suffer from a genuine social phobia. Perhaps the parent now acknowledges their own difficulties with sitting still, managing their anxiety, or tuning out background noise in order to follow a conversation in a noisy room.

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Published on November 24, 2016

I am grateful for Black Friday sales, I’m grateful for the ability to notice the things in my life that I’m grateful for, and I’m grateful for understanding that gratitude is not a state that is present only on condition.  I can CHOOSE to be grateful no matter what is going on in my life.  

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The Sex Offender Next Door

Published on November 13, 2016

Red Flags in Adult Behaviors – Child Safety Information

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THERAPY – To Go or Not to Go: An Open Letter to a Proud Man

Published on November 9, 2016

I know that the idea of therapy has crossed your mind on more than one occasion. Perhaps it was when you were lying in bed wondering if you will ever break free from…. Perhaps it was after a particularly strenuous family visit, where certain painful realities about yourself and your family started becoming clear. Or maybe it was after a social gathering where you so desperately wanted to make contact with the people sitting next to you, but you couldn’t muster up the courage. Whatever the issue, if you considered therapy and then backed down because you wondered “what would my friends or family think about me if they knew I was seeing a therapist”, then this letter is addressed to you.

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Dear Tzippora – question from LA

Published on November 5, 2016

Dear Tzippora,
I have a child on the autistic spectrum whose behavior can be strange and confusing for people who are not familiar with this disorder. Yet I enjoy having guests in my home both for Shabbos meals, and as sleepover guests. I don’t want to give up hosting others in my home because of my daughter’s diagnosis, yet I don’t know how to balance the desire to have guests with the reality of my daughter’s embarrassing and unpredictable emotional outbursts.

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“Ruff” Times-What Research Says About Animal -Assisted Therapy

Published on October 23, 2016

“Ruff” Times What Research Says About Animal -Assisted Therapy There is a growing body of…

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Language Empowers

Published on October 13, 2016

How can you regain a sense of control in your life? The way you talk to yourself is not a trivial matter. Your words have power. Saying ‘I have to clean the house’ is not the same as saying ‘I want to create an environment that’s clean and uncluttered, that’s a pleasure to live and work in.’

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Parenting That Child

Published on September 28, 2016

Summer break has come and gone and it’s back to work, school and the daily…

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Family Tech: SMS or SOS? Exploring the impact of technology on our most intimate relationships

Published on September 14, 2016

What’s the role of technology in an intimate relationship? Is it bringing us closer by…

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Avoiding the Therapy Roundabout – 12 tips to maximize your therapeutic experience so that the issues that ail don’t make therapy fail.

Published on September 14, 2016

Many more issues bring people into therapy and could potentially make them exit at the same place they entered. The client who comes to therapy because of low self-esteem feels he doesn’t deserve the therapist’s time and attention and that he shouldn’t be wasting money on himself. The depressed client feels that therapy is hopeless and she doesn’t have the strength or emotional resources to get out of bed to make it to the session. The client who is so overwhelmed by the stressful circumstances of her life has a hard time fitting anything else into her over-packed schedule and doesn’t keep appointments. The client with an anxiety disorder may find that talking about his anxiety triggers is too anxiety-provoking for him to continue. The nature of therapy is such that people come in because something is ailing them. Unfortunately, the very things that ail can make therapy fail.

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EMDR: How and Why?

Published on September 11, 2016

Personal and professional experience with EMDR

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Chewbacca Visits: The Power of a Dream

Published on September 4, 2016

Dreams bring images and messages from the depths of our soul. It is our psyche’s way of compensating for our conscious life, which is only one-half of our life-story. Our dream life brings a richness and ebb and flow to our daily existence. Likewise when we are in touch with our unconscious, there is a flow to our daily existence much like the ebb and flow of the waves of the sea. Our unconscious helps bring us light and creativity and vitality.

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Control Over Fear – Parshat Devarim

Published on August 11, 2016

I have spent over 30 years speaking with clients about their emotions. Most of that time I was trying to help them to identify and legitimize their emotional reactions. I have even built up a defensive kind of reaction to a parent who says “don’t be afraid”, especially when we know how important fear can be and the function it serves. “The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”1
So, I approach this

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Can Adolescents Act Abusively?

Published on August 9, 2016

Parents are often reluctant to admit that their teenager is acting in ways which are abusive due to their own feelings of guilt, shame or a sense of failure. In some of these cases, the adolescent was exposed to domestic violence or experienced abuse within the family at an earlier age and then repeats familiar family patterns at a later stage. In other cases, however, no history of abuse exists within the family.

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