Control Over Fear – Parshat Devarim

Published on August 11, 2016

I have spent over 30 years speaking with clients about their emotions. Most of that time I was trying to help them to identify and legitimize their emotional reactions. I have even built up a defensive kind of reaction to a parent who says “don’t be afraid”, especially when we know how important fear can be and the function it serves. “The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”1
So, I approach this

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Can Adolescents Act Abusively?

Published on August 9, 2016

Parents are often reluctant to admit that their teenager is acting in ways which are abusive due to their own feelings of guilt, shame or a sense of failure. In some of these cases, the adolescent was exposed to domestic violence or experienced abuse within the family at an earlier age and then repeats familiar family patterns at a later stage. In other cases, however, no history of abuse exists within the family.

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