the great majority of what’s called bullying today is verbal – insults. And even most physical fights begin with words; one child insults another, the insulted child gets angry, and before you know it fists are flying. So if kids know how to handle insults, more serious aggression is usually averted.
The most tempting way for Israeli children to bully immigrants is to make fun of their accents. While we may think this is evil on their part, we should realize that it is normal human behavior. When we hear others speak our language poorly and with heavy accents, we also find it funny. By adulthood, most of us have learned to appreciate that foreigners do not deserve to be laughed at for the way they speak, but children are more likely to succumb to their gut instincts and laugh at those who sound strange.Read More
Is your child being bullied in school? Have you done as you’ve been told, and reported the problem to the school authorities? And is the problem continuing or even getting worse?
It is no secret that being bullied is an agonizing experience for children. It hurts their self-esteem, mood, popularity and academic functioning. It can even hurt their physical health.
It is also well known that newcomers to a school are especially likely to be picked on. When students come from a different country, the problem can be exponentially worse. As much as we love Israel, we know how prickly “Sabras” – especially children – can be. Many Anglo families are devastated by the humiliation their children experience at the hands of their classmates. Avoidance of bullying has become a major reason for homeschooling throughout the world. In Israel, it has even led some families to give up on Aliyah and return to their country of origin.Read More
Slavery, while terrible, represented a secure existence. By that, I mean that life was consistent, unchanging, certain. A slave will never achieve great things or recognition on a greater societal level, but he/she will also rarely encounter doubt and anxiety.Read More
Sometimes the question sits on the back burner like low-simmering stew that has all but been forgotten. An innocent question may ignite a fire in a chilly room and we are off in a new direction. Or sometimes it buzzes around like a nasty mosquito.Read More
Given what we know today, it appears likely that unresolved trauma, whether minor or major, plays a role in the persistence of chronic pain, through mechanisms of kindling (a self-perpetuating phenomenon of neural excitation) and priming (in which the brain readies itself to respond a certain way), that cause us to continually brace ourselves against the threat that caused the pain or the internal threat of pain itself. This is great news, because it means that to the extent that the trauma is worked through at the body/mind level, the pain should either disappear or lessen.Read More
I’ve met many young women who obsessively dieted and restricted food intake only to then binge or eat compulsively (often against their will in a sort of uncontrollable impulse), who are miserable and full of self-loathing, who’s entire existence revolves around what they can and cannot eat – but who don’t believe they have a real problem because they’re BMI is in the healthy range.Read More
Your ability to feel comfortable with your therapist will help determine your level of trust and the ability to work through things together. What works best for one person may not be helpful for another. Good treatment should be individualized to suit your personal needs.Read More
“No, he is not the reason I came. Since his diagnosis, I have learned a lot about autism, and the different forms it can take. I’ve come to talk about my husband. I believe he is also on the autistic spectrum. I believe he has Asperger syndrome.”Read More