Valuable Tips to Manage Pain

Published on February 6, 2017

Given what we know today, it appears likely that unresolved trauma, whether minor or major, plays a role in the persistence of chronic pain, through mechanisms of kindling (a self-perpetuating phenomenon of neural excitation) and priming (in which the brain readies itself to respond a certain way), that cause us to continually brace ourselves against the threat that caused the pain or the internal threat of pain itself. This is great news, because it means that to the extent that the trauma is worked through at the body/mind level, the pain should either disappear or lessen.

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All Shapes and Sizes: Understanding the Many Manifestations of Disordered Eating

Published on January 30, 2017

I’ve met many young women who obsessively dieted and restricted food intake only to then binge or eat compulsively (often against their will in a sort of uncontrollable impulse), who are miserable and full of self-loathing, who’s entire existence revolves around what they can and cannot eat – but who don’t believe they have a real problem because they’re BMI is in the healthy range.

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Unravelling Therapy: Getting the Help you Need

Published on January 15, 2017

Your ability to feel comfortable with your therapist will help determine your level of trust and the ability to work through things together. What works best for one person may not be helpful for another. Good treatment should be individualized to suit your personal needs.

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How Fear Makes Pain Worse

Published on January 2, 2017

once the fear kicks in, bringing a host of physical and psychological responses with it, all of that preparedness just sits there, making us anxious. And, this makes the pain even worse!

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I Think My Spouse Has Asperger’s

Published on December 26, 2016

“No, he is not the reason I came. Since his diagnosis, I have learned a lot about autism, and the different forms it can take. I’ve come to talk about my husband. I believe he is also on the autistic spectrum. I believe he has Asperger syndrome.”

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Preparing for Seminary in Israel

Published on December 19, 2016

If your daughter is nervous about spending a year in Seminary in Israel, what are the issues to look out for, and how can you prepare her to get the most out of her year?

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The Marathon Culture

Published on December 7, 2016

The Marathon Culture Last week my friend was fortunate to spend her Sunday racing around…

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Tonight’s Role is Played By…

Published on December 7, 2016

Tonight’s Role is Played By… So my grandchildren come for Shabbat, and a favorite activity…

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To Be Mindful Or Not To Be

Published on December 6, 2016

So, I encourage mindfulness.  I invite my clients to be mindful: to attend, without judgment, to the present moment. I invite them to notice themselves, and use that awareness to inform their next move.

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Do You Find Being a Mother Overwhelming?

Published on December 6, 2016

Our children’s needs can be so all encompassing that we have little or no time to think about ourselves. For short periods of time, this can work, but constantly giving without ever looking after yourself, is not good for you, nor your children.

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My Child, Myself

Published on December 5, 2016

It’s not uncommon after a child receives a diagnosis for a parent to begin to see some of the same signs in themselves. They might think “Hey, maybe that’s why I am always losing things” or “I also have a problem with tight itchy clothing,” or “I’ve never realized that its bright overhead lights that give me migraines.” Perhaps the parent realizes that they also become flooded with emotion and take longer to calm down than other people around them. Perhaps they realize that they are more than just shy and may suffer from a genuine social phobia. Perhaps the parent now acknowledges their own difficulties with sitting still, managing their anxiety, or tuning out background noise in order to follow a conversation in a noisy room.

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GrrrATTITUDE

Published on November 24, 2016

I am grateful for Black Friday sales, I’m grateful for the ability to notice the things in my life that I’m grateful for, and I’m grateful for understanding that gratitude is not a state that is present only on condition.  I can CHOOSE to be grateful no matter what is going on in my life.  

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The Sex Offender Next Door

Published on November 13, 2016

Red Flags in Adult Behaviors – Child Safety Information

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THERAPY – To Go or Not to Go: An Open Letter to a Proud Man

Published on November 9, 2016

I know that the idea of therapy has crossed your mind on more than one occasion. Perhaps it was when you were lying in bed wondering if you will ever break free from…. Perhaps it was after a particularly strenuous family visit, where certain painful realities about yourself and your family started becoming clear. Or maybe it was after a social gathering where you so desperately wanted to make contact with the people sitting next to you, but you couldn’t muster up the courage. Whatever the issue, if you considered therapy and then backed down because you wondered “what would my friends or family think about me if they knew I was seeing a therapist”, then this letter is addressed to you.

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